Who will read this?

I still don't know if I should gear my blog towards cam models or the guys who watch them. I like addressing both, but an important part of blogging is to have a specific audience, right? Well, until I figure that out I hope I can be useful to all kinds of visitors.

Some cam girls have friends who are cam girls. I don't. I don't tell anyone I know about this job, which at times makes me feel a bit lonely! I get so self conscious now when there are guests over. The first thing I do is run around the house making sure I didn't leave my dildo or panties in a conspicuous place. Sometimes they end up on my kitchen table and I slap myself for being so forgetful. I think I need to get a dildo with a built in alarm system so that if I ever lose it I can just call it and it will ring for me. Anyway, having these secrets isn't all that bad. Despite feeling that I need to explain myself for whatever reason, I've always been the type to keep to myself. I'm used to it.

Friends always ask how much my boyfriend and I pay for our place. We're still in our early twenties, and where we live it's not that common for a young couple to be living together and being able to afford it. I wish people didn't really care but they're always curious. I've lived in this area for three months now and I have yet to make any close friends. I'm already used to having internet friends, and I feel like making new friends where I live will interfere with that. Still I wonder if I will ever make a friend I can tell everything to. It just seems so impossible. Who would accept it? 

Having a boyfriend with a humongously large...

80% of all guys on MFC will ask you if you have a boyfriend. 100% of them will ask how big his cucumber is. When  I started out I read a lot of advice for cam girls, and it said to tell everyone you are single. I started off with this little lie, but I'm an honest girl, and I couldn't keep it up for very long. Most of my regulars now know I have a boyfriend, and it makes me more comfortable that they know. I'm sure a lot of cam girls are willing to lie forever to maintain their clients' dreams of getting married to them. And I don't blame them because I get a lot of crap about having a boyfriend.

Some of them want to know every little detail like the color of his skin, what he does for a living, if he has muscles - one even  asked me if he does the dutch oven on me. I guess it's completely natural for them to ask these questions. I've asked the same types of questions to guys about their girlfriends. This just shows how unprofessional a cam site job can get. You can either be someone who gets paid for being an easy going friend to talk to, or a distant girl who doesn't really get to interact with anyone. I guess you can fit somewhere in between the two, that would be ideal to me.

In the past couple days I realized I may have let details of my personal life get in the way of the usual flirtatious and friendly conversations with my MFC friends. A rule I need to drill in my mind is, don't ever let things get serious. There are guys who will ask you to travel to them and guys who want you to fall in love with them. The girls naturally want to lead them on. So my honesty leaves me with a bunch of guys who have a sort of love-hate friendship with me. The better thing to do is never say anything that for them, reduces their chances of dating you. Unless you like being a heartbreaker.

I told my boyfriend all the questions they ask about me, and he said, "tell them it's humongously large."

true love on a cam site?

Can people really fall in love on cam sites? MyFreeCamsWiki states: "Many of our users and models have formed great friendships (many got married!)"

I wonder if this is true. I must say I am ridiculously a hopeless romantic, and I secretly fall in love with a lot of my MFC friends! But that secret will never be revealed to them. Sometimes I sacrifice a day of work for just chatting with people - it's a habit I'm trying to end. It seems the ones who make a lot of money with this are the ones who don't let friendships get in the way with the reality of the job. It's the ones who are constantly teasing, stripping, and touching. They are always on their guard, making sure they are getting someone to tip. I haven't gotten to this point yet because I've been so easy going. The truth is, it can be a very tiresome job that requires lots of energy. The best are able to keep over 300 viewers interested, and that means you can't devote much time to the ones you really consider friends.

Need a little privacy!

The worst thing about a job like this is having random house visitors. My landlord tells me she will come and pick up the rent money any time between 10 am - 1 pm, and she asks me if I'll be home then. Well, yes I'll be home, but the real question is will I be in the middle of a private session seconds away from relief when the doorbell rings? Will I have to excuse myself for a minute or thirty to put up with some polite chit chat?

I just moved into this place this month, and it was my first time applying for rent! It was pretty embarrassing to write down MFC as my employer, and I hoped they wouldn't find out what it really was. Fortunately my landlord is a weirdo and she didn't care for any details.

Would you date a cam girl?

Dating a cam girl is not for everyone. If you are likely to get jealous or possessive of your girlfriend, it probably won't work out because she will be exposing herself to hundreds of people, and many of them keep coming back for more. Still, I have had so many viewers who come into my chat room with the desire to find a girlfriend at a cam site. I am amazed that so many guys would accept this kind of a lifestyle. Among them is my boyfriend, who wasn't exactly thrilled when I told him I was going to be a cam girl, but has decided to stick with me for some reason.

I am guilty of telling people I'm single when I'm really not. It's just a part of the job. Once I get to know my regulars, however, I tell them the truth. I wonder how many webcam models are out there pretending to be single for years, when they are really in a long term relationship or even married. Well, I assume a lot of them really are single, because this kind of an occupation doesn't exactly support healthy relationships, at least not the traditional kind. So don't worry, guys - most likely your favorite model really is single!

Now what I'd like to know is, would you take the opportunity to date one?  

Telling a Cam Girl What To Do

Cam girls all have different ways of hosting their chatrooms, but most of us will take on a submissive role. We are getting paid to please the viewer, so it's likely that the viewer feels entitled to make orders. However, a small number of cam girls have strict rules against nudity, masturbation, or any kind of penetration. These are girls who are attracting the types of viewers who are in it for conversation and friendship.

If you feel a bit uneasy about asking a cam girl to fulfill your desires, you might want to look at their profile first, if they have one on their site. There, she is likely to tell you what she likes to do, what she is willing to do, and what she will not do.You will also find that the girl usually asks you what you like to do at the start of your chat.


From my experience, there are viewers who like to sit back and let me please myself, while there are others who are very demanding. Some cam girls might enjoy a guy who gives orders, but for me it sounds rude when a guy tells you to use a dildo when you're still dry and out of lube. But I guess that's just a reminder for me - always have lube.

My life as a cam girl

I've been a cam girl for 3 months and it has been a lifesaver for me. I graduated college this spring, and moved to an island where it was very hard to find a job with a liberal arts degree. Luckily I found MFC and got right into it as soon as they accepted me. I couldn't believe how fast I got viewers who would come into my chat room on a regular basis. Some of them are still popping into my chat room every so often, and I have to say honestly, I consider many of them as friends. Sometimes this job is a wild ride, but it also has it's slower moments. But so far I haven't once thought of quitting this job. I love being a cam girl.

I am guessing some of you who read this are women who are considering a job as a cam girl. I hope I can help you find your way through a tough decision and offer some advice. I'm also thinking a lot of people are out there looking for advice on how to talk to a cam girl. I hope I can shine some light on that subject as well! I hope you find my thoughts and insights useful, and I would love to read any comments you have for me.